It ought not be your identity.
First, the perks…
I was assigned to read this book during a class I took during seminary called the 'Psychology of Adolescents.' It was one of the most formative courses I studied in seminary. Even to this day, I am surprised by how much I retained from the class and implement on a weekly basis. Each week of the class, our professor, Robert Dykstra, assigned us to read adolescent therapy texts alongside of teenage novels, as a way of marrying study with practice. One of those books was The Perks of Being a Wallflower.