May the Real Me Meet the Real You

May the Real Me Meet the Real You

Said C.S. Lewis, "The prayer that precedes all prayers is may the real me meet the real you." 

A great friend of mine from college once shared this quote with me. He and I served in Young Life together, leading high school students toward a growing relationship with Jesus. I can recall that he ended nearly every one of his ministry talks with this quote just prior to closing in prayer:

"May the real me meet the real you."

I probably listened to him share this quote with me dozens of times. I think I also used it. But quite honestly, I don't think I understood the meaning behind it until much later in life. Intellectually I understood it. It's simple in structure, but truly profound in its meaning. 

Perhaps I missed it time after time because inherent within this quote lays an assumption that you know the real you. 

Is Shame Ever Healthy?

I work with students: middle school through college. I love it. I could not imagine applying my life's work to anything else. The goodness and idealism of teenagers serves as a constant reminder for me of the grace and redemption of God. I have grown to love my students as if they were part of my own family. I value them. Many of them inspire me and spurn me on.

Yet, serving adolescents is a costly vocation. It demands my time and patience and always tests the boundaries of my marriage and emotional health. As one who assumes responsibility in conjunction with the Parent and the Holy Spirit for the faith formation of adolescents, I am often one of the few who regularly witnesses their self-destruction, and the subsequent shame and guilt that follows their devastating decisions.